A few words about straight men, for a change
Some of my regular readers know me in real life, and they know that for the past year-and-a-half, I was the only full-time female researcher in a lab of 6-8 men. (Now, there are two of us.)
So amidst all the dick jokes (it's common practice when something exciting happens to ask me if I got a boner), there were some actual moments of wisdom.
For example, very occasionally I agonize over the men in my life. Being generally decent human beings, the guys listened (or pretended to, anyway) when I asked a very, very common female question:
"What did he mean when he said that?"
After a billion repetitions, one of them finally sighed and said, very patiently, "What happened one femtosecond before he said it? That's what he meant." I was introduced to what the guys call 'lizard brain'- and it was revolutionary to me. They explained that they see the world in 30-second increments, only think about one thing at a time, and if that one thing is them potentially having sex, well, so much the better.
I had fallen into a trap: I assumed that men think like women.
Now most of these guys are married, and, for all the complaining about their wives, there's one fact that isn't in dispute: they need their wives, because their wives are smarter than they are.
That's why it makes me so sad to read things like this, where a single, lonely woman stays single because none of the men she meets fill her 'values' requirements. It makes me even sadder to read the response (written by another woman) that all she needs to do is hang in there, because Mr. Right is comin'.
Ma'm? You haven't found a man that fits your requirements, because if you want someone who thinks and acts like you, you don't want a man, you want a woman. When you decide to go for a man, certainly you want someone who respects you and your sexual choices, but you're gonna have to take him in all of his sex-wantin', dick-jokin', questionable grooming practices glory.
Many feminists are hard on men. I like men. That's why it upsets me when other ladies try to feminize my guys in the name of moral values.
/rant
So amidst all the dick jokes (it's common practice when something exciting happens to ask me if I got a boner), there were some actual moments of wisdom.
For example, very occasionally I agonize over the men in my life. Being generally decent human beings, the guys listened (or pretended to, anyway) when I asked a very, very common female question:
"What did he mean when he said that?"
After a billion repetitions, one of them finally sighed and said, very patiently, "What happened one femtosecond before he said it? That's what he meant." I was introduced to what the guys call 'lizard brain'- and it was revolutionary to me. They explained that they see the world in 30-second increments, only think about one thing at a time, and if that one thing is them potentially having sex, well, so much the better.
I had fallen into a trap: I assumed that men think like women.
Now most of these guys are married, and, for all the complaining about their wives, there's one fact that isn't in dispute: they need their wives, because their wives are smarter than they are.
That's why it makes me so sad to read things like this, where a single, lonely woman stays single because none of the men she meets fill her 'values' requirements. It makes me even sadder to read the response (written by another woman) that all she needs to do is hang in there, because Mr. Right is comin'.
Ma'm? You haven't found a man that fits your requirements, because if you want someone who thinks and acts like you, you don't want a man, you want a woman. When you decide to go for a man, certainly you want someone who respects you and your sexual choices, but you're gonna have to take him in all of his sex-wantin', dick-jokin', questionable grooming practices glory.
Many feminists are hard on men. I like men. That's why it upsets me when other ladies try to feminize my guys in the name of moral values.
/rant
posted by La Blonde Parisienne at 11:43 PM
2 Comments:
But what I want to know is, why were YOU reading a site called "Modesty Zone"? :)
oooh--hoo mister right might be a-comin, but mister right is probably resigned, quiet, sexually repressed....
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